“ Brought to us from Jack Canfield, The Success Principles (p. 197)
- If you have 10 poker chips and I have 100, when we go to play poker, you are going to play more cautiously than me, because if you lose 10 chips you are out of the game, but if I lose 10 chips I still have 90 left.
- I want to build up everybody’s stack of poker chips…There is a story in the Chicken Soup for the Writer’s Soul about a woman who goes to give someone a story and they send it back to her and they ask her to change it a little bit and to send them a picture and she does. But then they send her an envelope, and she’s so convinced that it was a rejection that she never opens it. She kept it but threw it in the closet. Ten years later she went to open it and it said, we love your story, we just need you to make these final 5 corrections and we’ll publish it. She wrote that for ten years she never knew that, and didn’t have her story published. If she felt self-confident, she would have been able to write other things. But if she had higher self-esteem, she’d have known that rejection is nothing personal.
In The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he says one of the agreements is:
- Never take anything personally.
- It says something about the other person; it does not say anything about you. And so the idea is to allow yourself to just put stuff out in the universe knowing that if it’s rejected, so what! If one’s self-esteem is evolved and developed then it is easier to do that. We want to build up the self-esteem and self-confidence.